One day at a time....

[flowmom]

hugs RW. There are a lot of feelings to process there and it's going to take time. I recovered from H having an affair before we were M so I can relate to those feelings, but I just want to remind you that H is the one who betrayed you. You can get caught up in thoughts of the OW because it doesn't feel safe to have that anger at your H, who you are reconciling with. But the anger at the OW puts you in a stuck place because you don't really have a R with her, it's H who you have a R with. Sorry if this is not a helpful line of thinking...