rr, you're right that I need positive divorced mother role models. My new neighbour actually seems really OK with being separated, but she was the WAW (due to some kind of bad behaviour on her H's part) and had a lot of opportunity to work on things with her H until she was convinced that it wasn't going to work. S6's art therapist is a divorced mother...maybe she would be a good person to talk to.
And yes to the story that I'm telling myself about this. That's an area to work on.
June, I don't feel ready to post in infidelity. I don't have hard info and frankly the problem here is that H doesn't want to be married to me. There probably is an A, but if I had that info, I'm not really sure what I would do with it. I believe that H feels entitled to get into a sexual relationship now that we are separated. Just read what Juno's H emailed to her about what his lawyer said: basically it's expected that pursuing other relationships is fair game after separation or announcing intentions to D.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
