The dreaded LIMBO

[4luv]

I don't know if anyone has ever read happy_again's posts but they are very good...especially the ones he wrote AFTER he came back to his wife. He was a WAH and supposedly in a MLC (although I don't really buy the whole MLC thing anymore). The following quote is what he wrote about where his head was at the time when he was gone. HIs wife's name is Allie and after their marriage was saved she also joined the forum and they would write together. She also wrote on her experience with the whole thing. I think her user name is 'notimpossible'

"I am writing as the thoughts come into my head.i wish the wives would understand that we do not need their help to get fixed.we have to do it ourselves.i already have a mom i donlt need another i needed a wife and a friend.if they could only understand that for me i needed to know that Allie was still there but i needed this time to clear my head. if i wanted her to know something i would tell her and the snooping business has to definately stop. i will never forget the time when i came home to find Allie crying and sobbing because she had snooped and found my cell phone bill.the last thing i needed was a whining woman on my back and i didnt want to have to start explaining myself and i also didntt want to see my wife so torn up.it hurt so much to see this strong woman falling apart because of me but at that time i couldnt find the strength to hold her and tell her that one day it would all be ok instead i told her that she got what she deserved for snooping.i told her to get over it to move on with her life and to leave me the hell alone.Ileft. i drove for hours.i parked my car in a local shopping area and cried. what the hell was i doing?but I couldn;t stop myself.i called my friend who validated the fact that if Alie hadn;tsnooped she woulsnt be so upset. i chose to listen to her words instead it eased my conscience."