What I didn't add about the strange meeting w/OW's friend, is that he told me he had been married for 20 yrs, then engaged to someone a few yrs back. After the "aha" moment, I find out it was OW he was engaged to, until she broke it off about 4 yrs ago. About the time she set her sites on my H, I'm guessing-;)
He asked me if I'd like to get together to talk further. I told him I'd get back to him after 48hrs, so yesterday I sent him this;
E HO `I KA WA`A; MAI HO`OPA`A AKU I KA `INO.
Make the canoe go back; do not insist on heading into a storm.
--Mary Kawena Pukui
Apparently not direct enough, because he sends a response telling me we need to get together due to the "beshert" forces @ work. Besides, he's really attracted to me & thinks we need to explore that. Right.
I don't think I want to know anything more about her, them, him. I've let enough of my life be taken up with OW. It begins to feel like if I continue giving her pieces of it, I'm allowing her to steal slices that I can't get back.
So, I don't think a response is necessary, or advisable.
