Thanks everyone, My ex was extremely close to my family, especially my father. During one of my divorce trials ex lashed out at my father for "trying to take all his money". Ex's father is a very cold, uninvolved man so my father was his substitute. There is no doubt in my mind that he misses my father. My father treated him like a son.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11