Is LRT applicable here?

[pearlharbr]

I'm asking about change because something obviously wasn't working before. If you keep doing more of the same then you can expect more of the same results. It's all well and good to think you're fine the way you are and you don't need to improve yourself. Just don't expect anything to change with your W. She knows what she left. If she sees exactly the same thing then there's no reason for her to wonder if she made a mistake.

No, I'm not advocating making changes solely to win back your WAS. I think this is a time for self reflection and an opportunity to make positive changes. If not now, when?

Ultimately you have to be happy with who you are and you should only make changes for your own personal benefit. I just think it's indicative of your mindset if you're not willing to try something new.

Golf is a great example. It's something you didn't want to try before but now you're willing to give it a shot. But are you doing it because you have an interest or are you doing it simply because W wanted you to do it before? Losing weight does not count. I'd guess 99% of people here lose weight due to their sitch. Going out more is good if you were a homebody before.