The IC is a masters in psych student and she has to go through all of her cases with her supervisors.
I know it isn't all right, but I know it isn't abuse from me. I was an ass at times, but I'm not the first husband to be like that. But she was like this 11 yrs ago, too. I think the IC was suggesting that there may be a reason her ICs saw her as having a different problem when I wasn't in the room (my IC saw our bad marriage dynamic "live").
I know it has been hard on her, too, and I don't call myself innocent. Just not that bad to get the responses I've been living with.
Despite all this and other arguments that followed my IC session, I hugged her on my way to work for the first time in years.
