Quote: So, tonight, I was trying to shake that feeling that she's distant, and finally thought, so what? I don't need to determine if she is or isn't, my behavior should not change either way. Act as if, right? She actually noted that I was in a good mood. Good stuff - bringing postive energy into the home. THAT'S the solution. That's what I can do.
Awesome. Love the attitude about that.
Quote: Our coversation led to her moving into the master bedroom. She said that she has this fear that she'll be in the guest room indefinitely, and said that she's afraid that I'm just going to get fed up and say, it's time for you to come back. I asked her what she'd do, and she said panic - it's like a phobia or pathology. [snip] I guess she thinks that at some point it'll just going to happen, she said that she has no timeline in mind, that these things seem to happen more quickly than we anticipate so why put a timeline on it.
Bill, why not suggest to her (when she's ready), that you swap rooms for a little while? Let her get used to being in the bedroom again, without the anxiety about you being in there.
