Yesterday my IC (former MC) said my W might have a borderline personality disorder. She said this in response to W telling her ICs statements that make her seem strong, independent, and self-directed.
She told this to me so I could remember not to put too much stock into her flip-flops (love you, want a divorce reversals).
She was also replying to the idea that someone who considered suicide over use of porn, wanted a D, was very verbal and angry, would not be able to reign in all of those emotions for 11 years without ever letting it slip.
Oh, and the major counselling session she is signed up for by her IC isn't for self-esteem, it is for abused women.
My IC said to that I and she have both done and received some emotional abuse from each other, so it would be better than nothing. I'm trying to breathe deeply....
(re the screen, see if "compatibility mode" is on)
