I too felt so betrayed and hurt. I so many times wanted to contact the OM.(Ask Saffie) I even travled two states away to "talk" to him. But when I got there It was like "what for?" It was especily tuff for me becasue of my High school buddy. In High school we just kind of "took care of business" without too many words. And when he found out why I was there he wanted to "visit" the OM with me and a few of his local buddies.
As long as you let the thoughts of the OM or OW affect you THEY are in control. You GIVE them the power to "make you" angry or upset.
Write letters to vent but then burn them.
For now I have let it go. I have no plans of contacting him. I am not saying I will never do it. But I am not going to go out if my way for him right now.
YES I do think eventually we will / do need closer. But there is a right time for it.
Take care of yourself and the rest will fall into place
Doc
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
