Well...more to the story. I figured out that he took "her" on a weekend away last month to someplace he told me he could never take anyone else to since it was "our" place.
Doesn't talking divorce destroy many other promises, too? It doesn't take the pain away to notice, but all of this is a process that causes pain unless you run away. Detatching emotions from the event (depersonalizing it) may help a bit, but you need to get through the emotions without dumping on your H. With an EA/PA, it must hurt so much more, but reconciling is your choice.
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I feel like if I go, my attitude toward him now will be cold and he will pick up on it right away.
Only you can decide that. I think you should go because it might offer you hope and top off your love bank enough to feel good about him and he about you.
Only God knows why he's ended the affair, but then told you the damage is too great. I'm guessing, but I wonder if you are or were venting/dumping, which he deserves but won't help.
Take a leap of faith. It is one week away. I was told to call a truce between W and I. We did fight while there, but we also ML.
He has needs, so do you. To be a happier married family, you'll need to do some soul searching this week and begin trying to meet those needs of his (and yours). Getting on with your life and improving it, showing him the olive branch, and offering yourself and him hope can make a huge step much easier.
BTW- What is the worst that could happen if you went? Right now, things look pretty bleak.
