If there is one thing I have learned from my own sitch is that bringing up the past = no good. So stop it. Immediately. It will get you nowhere.
I agree with everyone else that you need to take things slow and set boundaries for yourself. Yes, you have both made mistakes but the fact that she had affair(s) and gave you an STD means you need not rush into things right now. Because if you do, I imagine it will be counter-productive. Tread slowly and carefully.
It's great you guys are taking the time out to meet up and listen to eachother and be cordial.
YOu mentioned somewhere in your thread that you treat your wife because of how your parents are, etc (verbal abuse) but I just want to tell you to own the fact that that behavior is your own choice you make/made. The sooner you realize that, the better.
Kudos to you for going to anger management. How is your IC working out for you? Exercising & eating right will definitely make you feel better as well.
Oh and please feel free to respond in my sitch-all advice is welcome.
Oh Im taking it slow. Real slow. I'm trying to change the way I am because I don't like it. Especially the verbal abuse.
My Ic is very very good.
I choose to change.
waw 36 (spiritual covenant and common law marriage)me 32 together 13 mos. Bomb dropped march 2nd 2010
children SD (8) S (10) S (3) need help from anyone with my sitch
