FM: I feel very stressed thinking about the kind of financial pressure that I'll be under in the future. It feels like my work as a parent and the earning pressure that I'll be under will leave no room for me to have a life.
Yes, it's scary. But people do it every day. Time to find the women who have a life and find out how they balance it and learn from them.
FM: I feel angry at myself for trusting H, for putting myself in a position where he has the power to destroy my dream of raising our children in a happy, intact family -- that was my top life priority and I put all my eggs in that basket.
I feel this way too. I've been financially and security-compromised in some ways during my relationship with H and I trusted and ALLOWED IT.
FM: Intellectually I know that I'll feel better in months or more likely years. But it's hard for me to visualize a future for myself where I am fulfilled as a person.
I think you need to find the positive role models so you can see what it looks like. Not the stressed, miserable role models. Sorry to keep returning to this point, but maybe you can't visualize it because you have not met enough women who embody it yet.
Good luck at L. Just get your info and leave. You don't have to process it today.
