Take away his security of "wife if he chooses" by no longer making it clear that you are available "if he chooses"
There IS no way to put fear in someone who is depressed, camped out, and doesn't CARE about anything but themselves.
Protect yourself and get busy and get happy and make sure he knows you are moving on (even if not dating). He's not entitled to know ALL YOUR BUSINESS any more. He's cut you out of his.
