My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

[nicole8]

I do know if he wants to see the ow, he will. However, I feel like a total doormat by knowing what he is doing (even though he'll deny it and say they are friends). It is almost like I am giving him permission because there are no consequences for his actions. He has it made, wife at home if he chooses, but for now vacation at his moms and time with ow.

I need a better way to put fear in him that I might not always be here for him. Does this make sense? I feel like I am rambling over and over about the same thing.