Maybe I didn't blow it?

[james217]

KF: How do I bust my divorce if every time something positive happens, like her wanting to see me, I have to take it as a negative?



If you do want to attempt to ride it out, you do have to keep a positive, yet realistic mental attitude.

Go with your four point plan above (maybe 3 weeks, not a month),
but also do not allow yourself to think she may not be dating.

Consider that she may be dating and that you are making changes that COULD change that tide. You can also set a time limit in your own mind that you don't tell her about so that you know you will not spend YEARS working on this without any sign of progress.

We all have issues we can fix. So do our exes.

most definitely. If she's putting feelers out there and being positive and you're being negative then gues what? in simple math that makes a negative.

I like that rr22 positive yet realistic. that's the state i'm trying to bein myself. make every encounter positive but be realistic and always consider and be prepared for anything.

KF

does she admit she has issues too? does she admit any wrong doing? In previous conversations has she admitted her mistakes?

don't bring them up at all. and don't r talk to ask her I just wanted to know if she's solely blaming you for everything