I just want to do the right thing. I just want to get back to my roots I re-grew my marriage from, that I planted here long ago. So do I just "detach" "GAL" "agree" and all that stuff to deal with this? Do I "let" her continue to go out with these people who I don't know, and apparently she has little interest in having meet me? Is it a big d--k move on my part to even think like I have the right to "let" her go out. Is that one of my problems? I am a bit of a controller. Do I trust her when she says no matter what she's NOT interested in seeing anyone else but that she does like going out with these people (including this guy) and sees nothing wrong with it?
I have to tell you, I have been close to calling it quits just on the fact that this FEELS so much like it did when she was having the affair but my whole being wants to believe it's not.
Grasshopper, this is where my advice and perspective was coming from. I'm certainly not "offended" (I have pretty thick skin), but the above -- from your initial post -- made it sound like you were looking for advice on how to best deal with your wife's recent change in behavior, not just work on yourself.
