Wow...my case in a nutshell Ferg! My exH has even commented, "Wow, you are the BBJ I used to know and love again! I am so happy for you but so sad for me bc it didn't happen sooner...maybe this wouldn't have happened" (see how he basically blamed me for the Affair? Geesh!)
Anywhow I also had a resistant spouse just unwilling to do the self-analysis/introspection and to invest in real growth in character and integrity. So I hear ya....
Re. the golf, I love to golf, I think I would like lessons. However you said you were resistant to lessons before when W wanted you to take them...
Resistant bc of the time/money commitment, or bc you really don't love golf all that much?
Just asking bc if it was the former, then go have fun! It if were the latter, then I wouldn't do it just bc your wife wanted you to...
