Everyone has given you good advice....I have one major question....does your h own the city he's living in? Why are you allowing him to dictate where you can or cannot live? He's certainly not living w/you and shouldn't have a say at this point in the game.
Snodderly, of course he doesn't own it!!
It's just that WE agreed that I take this job in the other city, and I gave up the position I had. Then when he left, all of a sudden, after the house was sold, I had no choice but to go to my new job and raise the kids-- alone. They got enrolled in schools here, in this other city. They are really really trying to make the best of it, find new friends, and adjust.
I can't just leave because I don't have job in the other place any more. It would take a long time to find something, and it would probably never be as good as the one I have here (even when I was there, I couldn't find this good a job). And I'd have to do it alone (if he didn't agree). And I'd have to transfer their schools. I wouldn't be able to afford a house.
Basically, if we're not doing it as partners, it would be worse for me to go to his city.
If we were doing it as partners, as a family, it would be fine.
But he won't do it as partners, as a family, and it's not realistic for me to uproot everything and do it myself at this time. Even though he says he wants his family all back together again. And HE doesn't have a job here, my city doesn't even have the types of jobs he does. Hope that makes sense!!
