You have not slipped so much, you remain very compassionate indeed :-)
Folks, when I repeatedly say detachment is necessary for deep intimacy, it is this kind of understanding and compassion and insight that only detachment can give. GH SEES his W. He doesn't make her sadness *all about him.* He SEES her, her pain, what her feelings mean to her...
Thanks OT. I think that's why I wasn't prepared to accept Jack's assertion that I had fallen. I suppose it looked like it at first. I really think I have maintained a lot of the changes I made back then but it's those key changes not stuck to, the ones I talked about in my last post, that have been my contribution to wherever we are in our M today.
I will admit though that detachment has come back in a BIG way for me just since being back here. I don't think I was nearly as detached over the past few years as I should have been, at least in terms of not trying to be a fixer all the time. Getting back to that seems to be helping a lot.
