Just take this for my opinion, which is what it is....
You say you "used to rebut everything". Is it possible your wife sees that you still do?
Yes, she'd likely say that. Even though I've gotten a lot better at letting things go.
If she says something that I know is not true or makes assumptions that are wrong, I still rebut her.
If she is telling me feelings, I let it go. I'm sure there are times when I slip up, but Retrouvaille was great at helping me recognize feelings and the fact that we can't help what we feel.
WAW Using God Me-43 W-40 M-14 S-11 S-9 D-7 EABomb 5/09 Separated 12/09
