"So, it's on to another day. W seems a bit tired, down today. She seemed somewhat like that yesterday. I would love to think it's because she's realizing that she needs to end this whatever-it-is going on and that makes her sad because beyond ALL the other crap, I KNOW she really enjoys the company of people in the settings that these people go to."
You have not slipped so much, you remain very compassionate indeed :-)
Folks, when I repeatedly say detachment is necessary for deep intimacy, it is this kind of understanding and compassion and insight that only detachment can give. GH SEES his W. He doesn't make her sadness *all about him.* He SEES her, her pain, what her feelings mean to her...
