Maybe I didn't blow it?

[timehealsall]

Another thing. Maybe you both need to be friends now and just ride it out. Maybe the whole serious conversation about where your R stands is what freaks her out. Like you're putting too much pressure, KWIM?

if you're going to start dating, then date, without putting labels on anything. Don't bring up your R or the D unless she wants to discuss it. Just ride it out. Continue GAL and just see where it goes.

I am trying to do the same and have zero expectations. To me, that's my biggest downfall. I expect too much, rather than just worry about myself and just take it as it comes.