WAS seeing reality?

[v1olin]

Taxes are in and my w has decided to file jointly for 09. If we file seperate I would owe 2k and she would have a refund of 3k. Joint return gives us a refund of 4500. She has really saved me some money here so I am going to thank her. Should we split it 50/50 or should I give her 3k and I take the rest?

[timehealsall]

I would do 50/50.

[v1olin]

keep in mind, she did not HAVE TO file jointly with a guy who had not paid in any estimated taxes for 09. That was my own problem to handle.

[Glimmerman]

V1olin

I like your idea. Gives you another opportunity to see her response.

[v1olin]

Could you elaborate Glimmer?

[Glimmerman]

I think that since you were going to owe anyway, that offering her what she was going to get anyway can show several things. She is being cooperative with you in the filing, so like you said, thank her. Offering her 3K shows her respect for a decision that really benefits you more than her. Like you said, she did not have to. Let her know you appreciate it.

[v1olin]

that was my gut feeling.

[v1olin]

Sent a text 2 hours ago to show my appreciation,


"Wife, You did'nt have to do that. Thank you"



No response from her yet which is not normal for her lately.

[Glimmerman]

I wouldn't worry about no response right now. The text you sent didn't really need one. And, who knows, "not normal" might be a good thing. Hard to tell regarding a lack of response, but it sounds like you feel you did the right thing.

[v1olin]

Yeah, not sure about the reason for no response. Maybe she did not expect me to thank her. I am not worried about it much either way.