Hi Gnosis, just a little thank-you note. (not trying to hijack your thread just wanted to express thanks and what I learned form your thread!)
I was rereading my own thread this afternoon, trying to gain some clarity and your post (early in my thread) caught my eye. I decided to read as much of your thread as I could and just wanted to say thanks for sharing your experiences. Your comments about the role of detachment and being able to look at things objectively have been very powerful for me to read. Also, your comment: "I don't look for 'signs' of improvement and try not to read her mind." really struck me,
As did this statement you made:
"However, as time goes by I'm starting to question my own needs and reflecting on my wants. I'm building myself into a position of 'power' so I can make a rational decision and not an emotional one."
I'm almost embarrased at how long now, I've been 'looking for signs of improvement' in my H and M. Your comments have enabled me to see how much of my power I've given away, in doing so.
Anyways these comments have kind of lit a spark inside me, one that's been out for a long time. I'm tired of how powerless I've felt, so if it's ok with you, I'm going to 'borrow' that power of yours for a while. Maybe it will help get me out of this overly-emotional mindset and get my objectivity (and my own power!) back too. Thank you again. PG.
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
