Very hard decision Puppy. On the one hand, Bo Peep worked before. On the other, I've already begun Ghandi and it's worked so far. It definitely feels better to do the Ghandi... but the Bo Peep seemed to work faster last time... I could count the baby steps in hours rather than days.
H is very attracted to nice, sweet girls. He's very sensitive inside and feels that I have been a harsh, shrew of a woman (not entirely true, but with a basis in fact) - but I'm really sensitive also and just very hurt and hid that side to me. I wonder if being a BIT more passive that I usually am and just letting him continue to take the reigns will be good for us.
For instance, he's stepped up with the children. In my mind, I think he's trying to punish me by leaving me out of their lives... but it may just be his clumsy attempts at taking control of his own life and his own children, which is fine with me. He does NOT want my help with them... wants to give them their lunch money from HIS wallet, pick them up and drop them off at their activities, where we used to share those responsibilities. He also won't eat any food I make, which is strange... which makes for a weird dynamic at dinner time when we're eating and he won't. I helped him make coffee yesterday morning and he seemed to resent it. I have just DONE so much of the work for SO long, that I think he needs to start to do for himself. So, maybe Bo Peep while he learns and grows and stretches his wings? As long as there is no sign of OW, of course... I do need to get GOOD intel on that.
