Calling all affair annihilators & boundary setters

[courts0818]

The cheating spouse as the victim? OOOOOOoooooo Please! I can so see my H trying that b.s. Anyway, thanks for the book recommendation earlier. I'm gonna hit up Barnes & Noble or Amazon for some new resources. How sad that my collection of books will turn from a focus on how to save my marriage & being a good wife to getting over an A. : (

I have a question. H set up this ridiculous every other wkend arrangement to visit DD. Probably so he could eat cake e/o wkend, yet still act like he's a decent dad. This arrangement usually consists of him coming over Friday-Sunday and spening time with DD. He comes to our house (he doesn't take DD to his house, which has been my preference).

Anyway, this is his scheduled wkend, but I don't want to see him. I'm not trying to deny him time with DD (hell...he's made that choice countless times since he moved out). I want him to take next wkend instead for 2 reasons - 1. I'm not ready to see him that much. 2. I have to work next wkend and he's going to need to watch DD anyway.

I'm going to text him shortly and I'm not sure how to word it. I want to get the point across that I don't want to see him. Any suggestions? He hasn't tried to contact me since Tuesday (although I did him see on Tues. & Wed. when he was here).