Well then, all the worse if he knew and helped to that extent. NO "love" is that great. "Love" is an excuse and an escape route. We can fall in love and stay in love with many people over a lifetime. Your thread also mentioned that it is dubious that this weird R of his will even work out. It's just escape. He may not even know it. He may be defended against realizing it because he needs it as a ticket for escape and to defend his view of himself as Good Guy, Not Like His Dad.
