I suspect he is gung ho about being a great dad, tell him he's already a TERRIBLE one and turf him out the door.
I would need to read more carefully, but I did want to toss my first impressions out to you. These are only first impressions until I get to read more.
I think shaming him as a bad father may wake him up a bit. And replacing him with a good friend to support your pregnancy and everything will give him an additional kick in the nuts that he needs to get out of the fog.
I don't think it's shaming to point out reality. You are not a good father. You ahve participated not a bit really, had an affair, and are complaining about making a call for one parenting class. This is not goign to work for me. Obviously I will be solely responsible once you leave for Europe. Sorry you are having a rough time in your life right now, but I need to look out for best interests of self and child. We will work out child support payments through usual legal channels. I don't have to pretend you are providing father support that you aren't. Please stay away from hospital as I will be ill and it could imperil health of me and baby. We will revisit over the next two years, with counseling appointments attended together in America, what, if any, your contact with the child you have chosen to physically and emotionally abandon will be. Hope you feel better and get your life in order.
