Piano: It's like he cannot face the emotional/psychological impact of his poor decisions at all!
Cannot or willnot.
And I think it's 2 AND 3. Anyone can get a crush at any time and blow it up to "love"-- it's very convenient that this magical crush happened right when a large responsibility he wants no part of came on. The fact is he created an escape from fatherhood and says he plans to deal with his guilt about that by writing you a check. At this point, you should hope he does help you financially.
Whether or not he's wounded, he did have the choice not to make you pregnant and the responsibility to know himself better (that he likely couldn't handle it) before he chose to do so. Even most accidental pregnancies could ahve been avoided. I don't know your sitch. Maybe yours was planned. If so, this is even worse.
I hope you find closure with this situation. I don't see how it is good for someone experiences the stresses of being a young mother to try to "fix" a messed up, wounded person on the side, even if you love him. You only have so many personal resources. You may need to conserve them for you.
I mean you can keep DBing and all and validating, but you're kind of at a scary point right now in your life. Your resentment could get better, or it could just grow. Hard to say.
Hope you get some rest this week. Sorry you are goign through this. No one deserves this type of thing.
