Thankyou rr22. You are spot on. He has people convinced that he just , you know, fell out of love with me, fell in love with goldilocks, and that it's better for me and the baby and everyone all round that he jumps ship now rather than further down the track when it would only be worse... And people BUY this crap! I think he also believes his own garbage.
You know, I don't think he is "evil". I think he is just one messed up wounded creature...doing really really bad things.