Into my arms... #70

[Kalni]

Ohh and H was talking like... "listen to this unbelievable story, and yes people should tell the truth but what truth would do to my BiL, he would go crazy anyway..." Stupid man

[faithisbelieving]

.....hang in. FIB

[MichelleLT]

It's too close to home for him. It makes him feel guilty. If he says SIL deserved it, then he deserved it too.

It's just a defense mechanism.

Hang in there.

Don't let it get to you my dear.

Step away from the drama and breathe.

[smith18]

Yuck! There is no excuse for a man to beat up a woman unless she attacks him. The 25 year old MILF hunter is open game for a good ass kicking though.

[MichelleLT]

So how does that work in reverse?

And why is someone who may not know the person they are in a car with is M fair game?

And it makes me curious about how you feel about Maria's comment about being sorry she never got to kick OW's a$$...

[Kalni]

I have been drafting a letter to OW actually since I cant beat her up. Words can hurt much more than punches...H said I can write to her whatever I want. I dont know if I will send it but I have not yet decided. I think if I feel reasonably secure with H that I will send it. As closure.

When I told him, that making me doubt my own gut feeling and eyes was the meanest thing he did, he agreed. He said, in his eyes, BiL is 100% right but that doenst solve anything.

[MichelleLT]

He's definitely right about that!

Glad you are getting more closure with OW! You are right, words can hurt a lot. And you can't even take them back.

[mishka422]

That is such a sad story K. BIL definitely crossed the line by getting violent but, like you, I can't say I blame him entirely.

Sil needs to just file already and stop driving this man crazy.

Hope your dad is doing ok today. How is your mom feeling now?

[rockedworld]

Kalni,

I am interested in hearing more about your letter to OW. I find I am still really stuck on my anger to OW. I know I need to do something with it, something constructive. I am interested in your process with this.

[AliSuddenly]

Hi K!
I missed alot. Firstly - on the ML.. WOW!! I agree with someone here who said, the first few times were a bit.. wierd. They were for me too for the first about 2 weeks.. felt a little alien -there was passion there, but he felt disconnected from ME. That soon changed and like Addie said, we have had some of the best sex of all our years together, since piecing! Sounds like you will too.

As for your Mum and Dad.. that is so tough on you but good you told H you dont need any more stress from him anymore! And this really really stuck out.. WOW again !

PS Yesterday and today, he keeps calling just to chit chat. I asked what is wrong and he said he would love to be home and not at work. That he is bored and misses our home. That's Him from ...5 years ago. Something is definitely working and it aint sex.

Ohh and he hardly goes to his morning job 3 days out of 5. He says he doenst want to leave our home and the kids. He didnt go to work today either...

ALL those times you were frustrated about his 2 jobs and hours.. I remember saying, but things change, it may take a while but he wont want to work 16 hour days forever. Seems the penny has dropped with him! I reckon it signals that he is coming out of the tunnel, at last.. 5 years, thats about the average right? For MLC (I know you never liked to label him as an MLCer). The fog has lifted. Thats fantastic news!

Lastly... about BIL and SIL.. how sad. I say stay out of it and protect your own M and have more fun and LESS stress! They didnt exactly help to reunite or mediate with you and H, so I dont think you should feel guilty if you take a step back. Perhaps you have already decided to do that.

I cant tell you how happy I am for you!!!! Julia is right, you should be proud and I'm not surprised you are shocked - its a rare thing to get to this point, a proper new R out of the vacuum of a WAS.

Love Al ! xxx