ssmguy...I am talking to a wall of course, as nothing I seem to say to you ever sinks in. I have said all of this to you before in other posts, but for the record I'll say it one more time:
You are making the mistake of assuming that you are like other men, in all or at least most cases. However, you and my husband, as far as sex lives go, have little to nothing in common. You are living in a famine and scarcity related sexual world. My husband spend all of his twenties and most of his early thirties living out every fantasy he (or any other man) ever had, with too many partners to count, and being a very, VERY bad boy. He has had it all and done it all. He has learned that sex comes easily to him and women throw themselves at him. He did all of this while he was single and free to explore. He has gone down every road you can think of, and many you would likely never think of. He did this with both committed partners and with uncomitted partners. He finally grew up and realized that all the sex in the world could not fulfil him by itself, and without love and true intimacy and a real bond with one woman, he didn't want the "easy" stuff anymore. He did explore so many avenues that he finally touched on tantric and very self-disciplined practices of sexual strength and energy use.
You - as per your own description of your life - have lived sexless in your marriage for a significant number of years, only getting some infrequent jollies on the side from women who you can quickly dash off from with no emotional bond, or from strippers or apparently at jack shacks. The rest of your sex life is entirely masterbation.
Do you not see how possibly you and my husband could have a different attitude about sex? Is it not clear then that maybe he isn't masterbating once per day, since he's already had more sex than you will ever have in the rest of your life, including your daily masterbation, and he is younger than you? I have pointed this out to you before, yet you just simply forget what I've said and again revert to the notion that since you are the only example of a man you truly care about, your experience must be the same as other men.
I have also told you that there are many facets to my story and my sex life that I have shared in many previous posts, but which you likely haven't read because you've come along more recently. And yet...you just simply assume that you must be right and I must be wrong, there can't be any information that you don't know that would change your mind...because of course, YOU base what you believe to be true on only yourself and your own experience.
I am sorry HDWife for hi-jacking your thread.
I am also sorry for even responding to ssmguy yet again as it will not be retained in his memory anyway, and he will just go ahead thinking what ever he thinks regardless of the experience of others.
I am sorry to everyone, as I feel strongly urged to pull away from this forum. I just can't get into it anymore without some of my old frequent posters. The place just ain't the same.
