Good stuff there Sol. You seem to be at the same stage or attitude as myself. Dating but not making it a big priority. There just seems to be too many things going on with kids school and activities. Doing things with the kids helps keep me young at heart. I just am enjoying raising kids and the lady I meet has to be compatible with my kids (or myself/my kids with her kids).
With each lady I meet, it seems that I become more and more at ease. I enjoy learning about them even if there is no attraction. And I try to condition myself before hand so as to not be surprised and to maintain a gentleman demeanor.
It is great that you are not enemies with your X anymore. It is much easier to be civil and flexible than to be enemies. Oh, and my X must have gone through some sort of regret also since she did ask for another chance right before the D was final.
Just keep on your path, lose the gut and you may be in for a pleasant surprise someday when the right lady falls into your lap. I've got a couple ladies I am keeping in touch with who have the chemistry with me and the most recent one seems to have much in common with me. I have no expectations and am in no rush to force anything. I believe that developing a friendship is best first before jumping into any passionate physical relationship.
Good luck and stick with your happy go lucky easygoing attitude. It will rub off on your daughter.
