Thank you Forward, and you are probably right about going dark. Once he gets his own place to live, he will not have to be at (my) house inorder to keep our son while I work, and going dark will be that much easier. I know he likes to be at the house, and while he is here he does do alot i.e., mow the grass, grocery shop sometimes and if I squinted real hard it would almost be like we were still married. He pays most of the bills, and is actually paying more than the court awarded me. I am sure this is alieviating his guilt, and at the same time he continues to have a relationship with me, however limited.
He is in my life, but I am not in his. Going dark would change that. I need to read some other peoples posts that went dark with children, and see how they did it.
Our child is seeing a counselor about behavior changes from the divorce, and he has let us know that our son will need us to maintain a united front in how we treat him, discipline ect.ect. It is heart breaking to watch what once was a happy go-lucky child have their world turned upside down, and be so young they lack any coping skills.
In spite of how we need to parent, do you think I can still go dark enough? We have to attend one more parent meeting together to help us come up with a plan on how to co-parent. Do you think it would be beneficial to go dark with everything except our son?
Whatever I do, you are right in that my self esteem does not need any more blows, and my focus needs to be on my son and I and on GAL.
