I have had a very productive evening, as self-help evenings go. I have been working my way very thoroughly through the book Getting Back Together. This book is an excellent resource. I have read and done a lot of journaling. It's been good to get some things on paper--my most important values, where H and I conflict on values, where I'm willing to compromise, and goals for a reconciliation plan that tie directly to my values. I also did some writing about our negative history and things that have led to my feelings of anger, resentment, depression, or guilt. In addition, it's been useful to journal about my self-worth, my true identity, and the things I do well.
The next part is to define and focus on my needs and examine what the steps are when partners choose to reconcile.
