You still have to be careful. My attorney, a woman practicing divorce for almost 30 years, has frequently told me that when women fall in love with another man, they punch out and divorce the man. When the reverse occurs, the man stays in the R because the wife/woman 'performs a function'.
Hey...I'm not being a naysayer. I only wish you all to be careful and not get hurt again. Keep an open eye. Work it. Certainly, saving a marriage that can be healthy is better than divorcing. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
My H said he was done, that he is in love with OW and that he can't live without her. Said that "His heart is marked and there is no going back and that our marriage has come to an end"(in an affair for 1 year).
Yet -
Never asked for divorce Never told his dad that he'd left us On many occasions he would ask me if I've already told my family and seemed relieved that I didn't. Wasn't interested in separating our finances Wanted to continue everything as before (our business, joint accounts) accept replace me as a wife with OW.
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
That makes sense FIB...my best friend left her marriage without ever looking back. I couldnt even see her doing the things my H did during the separation.
Every sitch is different and can change at anytime. I still have walls up even though my H is back and things seem to be going smoothly...so Im being careful.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Keep your trust on the right Man. .. God will lead - ask Him for wisdom, ask Him to reveal anything that needs to be and be willing to SEE whatever He shows. And what is so cool... He will and if there is nothing - then there is nothing you know what I mean??
keep your own life - always!! do you know what I mean? dont loose yourself to him ever again -- you have grown. be the WOMAN you deserve to be and ... be loved!!! you deserve it!!!
hugs cagzmom
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
Thank you Cagz....and yes...I DO know what you mean. You couldnt have said it better!
~hugs to you~
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Wow Kissak, I've been all over this forum to see the positives because I'm very down today. I'm really happy for you, and I hope and pray that one day me and my H can reconcile.
I started losing hope because it has been 17 months since our separation and our sitch is different than yours but you have given me such hope!
Yesterday I went to my son's ball practice. I was talking to an aquaintance of my H and I. She is wanting to leave her H. Really, she wants him to leave and He wont. She is miserable. Really it is a sitch were I would want to leave too...anyway, she was talking to my H one day last week. She asked him what made him want to come back home to me....he replyed that it was simplier (which he had told me), that he missed everybody (which I knew) and that he was just tired of being STUPID, but that she didnt need to repeat that....but she did tell me
Just worth repeating to all of you
Things are still going good. Praying for all my friends on here everyday!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
What an awesome revelation as well as a short and sweet definition of MLC. I am so very happy for you Kissak. Most of all I am happy for your H, that he did not let you get away.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
.. God will lead - ask Him for wisdom, ask Him to reveal anything that needs to be and be willing to SEE whatever He shows. And what is so cool... He will and if there is nothing - then there is nothing 
you know what I mean?? 