Nah it's ok... OIN needs some encouragement right now... his wife found his divorcebusting thread just tonight.. ya SEE? I can predict the future.. just not for the right people! lol
It is a good word to the wise though... you don't want them to find this site or your entire marriage saving project is open for them to read... and to forward to OW as well.
Message on facebook today. (let me start by saying that I did NOT say the things she said like she said them. I said EXACTLY what I posted here. I think everyone knows by now that OW is a bit, well, crazy...)
Hi OW,
First let me say I'm not initiating contact here, I'm merely replying.
It DOES seem as though you and OWH have been getting MUCH more dialogue from my wife than I have! I actually had to disable her car to get 10 minutes of her time! Hopefully that will change now. We had a good talk today and I think we have a clearer understanding as to how each of us feels and that is a good starting point in working towards some sort of resolution. I DO, however, have an issue with being painted as some kind of Ho who has this "addiction to extramarital affairs" (Plural???) & emotional "pattern" when having these "love affairs" (plural???). As I told YOU, in GREAT DETAIL, there was ONE girl, many years ago, who came into my life even before our first wedding anniversary. I will be speaking to her about this as it pisses me off to be slandered so! On a more positive note, I believe W and I are now in a position to better communicate our feelings and you and OWH should be left alone now to resolve YOUR OWN issues without the burden or DISTRACTION of OUR issues!
Again, take care and I wish you and OWH the best of luck. :o)
I think you are doin ok... we need to get a better angle on what your H is plotting... I honeslty dont' know if OW has given him the heave ho yet (excuse the pun), but I suspect you have given her good cause to second guess investing further time in your H. I think teh added pressure at her home madea HUGE difference. Despite her claims that she was over or done or platonic or whatever its clear she doesn't want YOU tampering with HER marriage at ALL and wants YOU to keep YOUR NOSE OUT. lol
Just keep your distance from H and try to find things to enjoy yourself. Make a lot of phone calls and talk warmly. Also while on the phone, talk about H's affair right in the open while he's there... just act like he's not in the room.
You don't eevn have to be talking to anyone. The idea is for HIM to see you doing somethihg ELSE and iGNORING HIM.
He wants to think he's won... so, act like he hasn't.
Just put up all teh confidence you can muster and chat a way on the phone.
OH! I get it Allen. I will have to suffer, I guess, if they find it. I don't know how to hide it and still post - it's pretty obvious and there aren't many DB threads in this side of the forum.
That's interesting... again I think he and her are "protesting too much"
They seem to be making a HUGE SHOW of them NOT CONTACTING each other.
What we need to do is find out if they ARE indeed trying to end things.
I don't know if they are or not... it could go either way here.
I would just ingore him for a while like I suggested earlier... He needs time to withdraw from her if he IS even making an effort. You can't make much of a dent yet until he's gottan her out of his system.
What I am going to suggest Pass is that you update YOUR facebook account with a public posting of each time your H tries to contact this woman.
Date it and note it on there.
It's exposure yet again and it should piss him off. I want to see if she responds to him or not... if they keep tryign to sell this "It's over" story I am going to put all my money on it still happening.
OH! I get it Allen. I will have to suffer, I guess, if they find it. I don't know how to hide it and still post - it's pretty obvious and there aren't many DB threads in this side of the forum.
Just have to be very careful when you post and where. I know some people who only post at work. OIN only posts from his blackberry.
It also depends on how IT savvy your H is...
But yes, I think it may take more detective work than those two are really capable of right now... They both don't look like they are too intrseted in research... they are too busy farting around on faceBook lol
First let me say I'm not initiating contact here, I'm merely replying.
OK, this is so pathetic its humourous. I just don't know how to read it, he MAY be trying to actually throw you a bone here and show that he's TRYING (pathetic I know) at least in his OWN head to avoid her... I dunno.. i can read that etiher way...
Originally Posted By: Passenger
Again, take care and I wish you and OWH the best of luck. :o)
Now this makes me laugh... days earlier he's mounting this man's wife in teh back of his car and NOW he's wishing him "best of luck?" lol
This is the most ridiculous thing I have ever seen! He hasn't even TRIED to apologize for having SEX with this man's wife... he just says "best of luck"
This guy is REALLY DELUUUUUUDED. He's completey fogged out.. no shipps at sea tonight captain!
There is nothing I have said that is dishonest and nothing that I have done that I am ashamed of. The only thing I wonder if I should tell H about is that FIL changed locks on apt. I wasn't going to tell him b/c I wanted him to go there with OW and find out on his own, cause a little strife... but now that she's probably not going there with him, it may be kinder to tell him that the "picnic palace" has been closed for good.
In any case, I guess strategy is the only thing I want to hide, but I've given up on that side of things. I am just being myself, working on myself, making myself happy, reading more, learning more, and leaving the rest to God... so, go ahead and read your heart out.
H does know about this forum, so he may figure it out. He may not know who Passenger is, though.
