I think you are doin ok... we need to get a better angle on what your H is plotting... I honeslty dont' know if OW has given him the heave ho yet (excuse the pun), but I suspect you have given her good cause to second guess investing further time in your H. I think teh added pressure at her home madea HUGE difference. Despite her claims that she was over or done or platonic or whatever its clear she doesn't want YOU tampering with HER marriage at ALL and wants YOU to keep YOUR NOSE OUT. lol
Just keep your distance from H and try to find things to enjoy yourself. Make a lot of phone calls and talk warmly. Also while on the phone, talk about H's affair right in the open while he's there... just act like he's not in the room.
You don't eevn have to be talking to anyone. The idea is for HIM to see you doing somethihg ELSE and iGNORING HIM.
He wants to think he's won... so, act like he hasn't.
Just put up all teh confidence you can muster and chat a way on the phone.
