Well, I emailed X yesterday and asked him about dropping off the kids 2 hours late Saturday. A friend is competing in the local Highland games, so a couple of us plan to go watch, and I thought the kids esp. D10 might enjoy it. The big parade of bands is at 11 and it's an hour drive so wouldn't be able to make it by noon. X emailed me today and said ok, good to be flexible sometimes (um, yeah, he's leaving for 10 days in a month with OW and won't be sticking to the schedule then, like for Father's day).
He told me the 4 ot appts. he scheduled for the next month, and he asks me when I'm going to start taking her since I'm asking for full custody. I emailed back I would like to start doing appts. on the days we have the kids, which if I get primary custody, would mean most of their appts. prob. But told him until Dec. when my year of probation is up, I can't be taking off every 2 weeks to OT without risking losing my job.
He emails back to me that that I told the job after my training was over I would take D10 to dr. appts. (Yep, that was when I was explaining how when she had bronchitis and I asked that he take her, he didn't and then tried to talk her out of it the next day (you don't really have to go do you?) as if a 10 year old tries to go to the dr. for fun or something. She told him she really really needed to go and then finally he did. I told the judge that, and said after training I would never depend on him to take her, and will take her myself on the days I have her, which is 100% true!
He then accused me b/c I took leave for jury duty and 3 hours on Good Friday (when D10's daycare was closed) that I've proved I can take leave (which btw I never told him either).
Then he said he's doing everything now (I guess b/c of the ot) and said since I'm not doing my part as a mom, OW has volunteered to take D10 to her ot appts. when he can't make it b/c of work. And I need to step up to the plate now, not in December.
I just don't understand how he could be so hateful. I actually cried at work a bit. One of my friends talked me down and said he's not right about anything else, why would I listen to his opinion about my parenting? Good point....And btw, did not reply to his email, even though it was so hard not to!!!
