New Year brings exciting news

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That magic moment has arrived - Karma!

Last night S17 told me he had decided he was definately staying with me. Unless you have had a child live away from you you cannot imagine how that felt. He agreed to tell XH today.

I had told S17 to speak to XH but of course for a teenager that equates to texting His first txt was to let XH know about the decision. XH initially said do we need to talk about this and S17 pointed out that XH had told him to make a decision and he had so there was nothing to discuss. Within 10 mins he got a txt to say come at 7pm tonight all your things will be packed up for you! APPALLING

I had already arranged to go out for tea tonight so S17 explained that he wouldn't be able to go to XHs to collect all of his stuff. So instead XH bundled it all into his car and brought it round at 5.30pm. There is enough stuff to fill my dining room and my hallway and I don not have a poky house!

XH refused to get out of the car to help S17 bring his things into the house and he also refused to come into the house for a drink. He had the baby with him (but no OW). S17 said that he had wound the car window down an inch and it was through this very small gap that he spoke to him.

After a few trips back to the house XH then got out of the car and stood in the road and told S17 how disappointed he was in him and told him that because of this action he and OW would now be forced to live on the street! He then got back in his car.

Whilst S17 was removing things from the boot of the car he was trying to engage XH in conversation but XH just looked into the rear view mirror and spoke to him via that!

After he left there were several nasty text messages. The worst was this one. A few weeks ago S17 helped his friend clear out his house as his parents had split up. His friend’s father was throwing out some nearly new golf clubs and S17 asked if he could have them as he would give them to XH for his birthday. The father readily agreed. As S17 didn’t end up seeing XH on his bday this set of golf clubs, along with his own were in the car. S17 told XH that they were his golf clubs and XH told him he didn’t want them as now that he had the baby he had neither the money or the time to play golf. The text message that referred to this said ‘I suggest you sell the golf clubs and buy yourself an 18th birthday present as we will no longer be able to afford to do so!’

Tonight S17 and his gf have gone out. S17 readily admitted he wanted to get drunk as he was so upset. About an hour ago he forwarded me a text that OW sent him. I’ve written it out again here so that you can see what a mean piece of work she really is:

‘S17 you are the biggest disappointment of my life. I never thought I can invest so much money, time and love into somebody else’s child! But I did. To ate to be sorry hey… Well bare in mind you are now in same category as D20 Make appointment with your father outside my house when you want to see him as I don’t want to see you. Your father will let you know when I forgive you.Than it’s all up to you. I wish you nice life but do not expect anything from me ever again. Good luck!’ (the spelling mistakes are all her’s!)

I’m calmly sitting here, perversely enjoying every minute of it, as they are both doing me the biggest favour ever. Why would any child want to go back to that?

Quite what money she has invested in my son I don’t know. She didn’t work for the first year they were together, then she only worked part time and now she isn’t (or wasn’t) intending going back to work after having the baby. If anything it is ME who has invested in her child as mine has certainly seen nothing of the money I’ve been paying for the last 12 months since XH went to the CSA. Interestingly I will be their first customer bang on 8am tomorrow morning advising them that I am no longer liable for payments.