embracing change

[lalxx]

hello flowmom,
I am so sorry to read your latest news - I knew in my heart that my MLC husband was having an affair last year - even when faced with fairly damning evidence he tried to lie to me and deny it (yes really).

We have been separated now for 6 months and I would like to share something which has kept me sane. My rules regarding my husband his OW and MY CHILDREN:-

1. my children do not need to know that their Dad is having an affair
2. my children will not be introduced to the OW for the forseeable future
3. my husband's contact with the children will be consistent and regular
4. the OW is not important in this situation - my kids are #1, I am #2 and my husband is a way down the list #3
5. I do not discuss the OW with my husband at any time

I have all of her contact details and have had for the last 7 months but I have not been in touch with her and do not plan to be - whilst my husband thinks she is important - she categorically is not. I do not give her space in my head anymore.

It seems that an affair is par for the course with MLC - I am sorry you are going through this bt, from your posts, you are smart lady and I am sure you will behave appropriately.

lalxx