I agree, he won`t feel anything until I`m gone. I`m sorry you ended up the same as me. We were working so hard to save our M`s, but a LBS can take just so much.
A D didn`t help your H, and it won`t help mine. They honestly believe we were their problem in life. Sometimes I think my H will never come out of it, like you said, I feel this is normal behavior for my H, because he thinks he`s normal and doesn`t do anything wrong and he justifies his behavior.