Need a pick me up

[pearlharbr]

Hi Burt

I don't think I've posted to you before but I just read through your Piecing thread.

IMO, sounds like your W has real issues with financial security. Did she grow up in an insecure environment? Something like that is ingrained and can be difficult to overcome.

I also know how frustrating it is when something is so important to you but doesn't seem to matter at all to your partner. She may feel like she is worrying about the kids and you don't care as much. And she probably doesn't like feeling like she's the only one who worries and that somehow makes her the bad guy.

I'm not saying that she's necessarily right. She could be entitled and spoiled and doing less than her fair share. But I think it would go a long way if you would really talk to her about these fears and try to understand why she feels that way. Then you can talk about what you, together, can do to alleviate those fears.