Gypsy posted this in another forum and I'm swiping it to hopefully steer myself in a good direction.

Done is letting go, not going back for the last word.

Done is not telling the other who they are, how they should feel.

Done is not telling the other how you feel about them.

Done is "Hello", "Good bye"

Done is walking the walk, not dancing in minefields.

Done is not allowing inappropriate topics.

Done is civil.

Done is a reasoned response, not emotional.

Done is "I don't regret the time spent together, wish it could have worked. We're all moving forward."

Done is looking at the BIG picture.

Done is when the divorcing/former spouse's drama is no longer yours.

Done is letting go of the emotional hurt, the need to attack.

Done is leaving the bullshit behind.

You're a distinct individual, opinionated, intelligent, super dad.

Lock the door. Move forward. The less you think for her, the more you can live your life.

Or perhaps all of the above is "well done."

Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11
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