Yes, Allen, you're right - she's very childish. Odd to think she's 6 years older than I am. And I only have a facebook to keep tabs on the kids... I agree otherwise - people post EVERYTHING on there, it's silly. Great South Park episode last night making fun of facebook.
I still don't know if I believe her... She's making an awfullly brave show of things, but she's also slipping in a lot of shots that arne't convicning me she's grown up at all.
Based on that e-mail exchange, I don't think I trust ANY of the three of them, and would advise you do the same, Passenger.
This OW is just SEETHING with entitlement, her husband seems like a total wimp and you already know what I think about your husband in his current state.
An article in my local newspaper about six months ago identified Facebook as THE NUMBER ONE SOFTWARE TOOL used to INITIATE and CONDUCT AFFAIRS... Second Life made the top five in antoher report I was reading...
Oh, this hurts. I wanted to believe for a second that he was saying he'd start dating me to see if anything was there but the more I examine his words, the more I convince myself he just didn't word it right... even if it is only a few days post exposure.
AT BESt right now Pass, he's in withdrawal and the OW has told him to steer clear...
If this IS the case, which I am still skeptical about he's going to be pursuing her for at least a few weeks to test her commitment to end her affair... He's an addict, don't expect anything positive yet... it takes time.
And MWD says ingore what they are saying, look at what he's doing... don't put much stock in his words, positive or negative... he's all over the map right now and he's going to toss out whatever fits is MOOD.
You don't want to measure his MOOD, you want to measure his COMMITMENT... he can only express his MOOD right now, not his long term commitment level.. THAT he has deeply suppressed and doens't even want to look at right now.
Thanks, Allen. After the emotions that hit us both during that talk, I really forgot to not believe what I hear. I can't believe I fell for that. It's so hard when he's acting like the old H not to think of him as the old H.
Yep... if exposure hurts him - and he's indicated it does - then he's going to try to play you in order to keep up appearances.. even when you are alone... he somehow thinks he can fool you... and my wife DID fool me... for two months I thought it was over and she was all smiles.. i learned the hard way that ending an affair is NOT as easy as making a facebook posting.
your husband has done ZERO on HIS end to end this affair from what I have read... its all visible stuff on OW's facebook and email.. its public
What's going on in his head is going to take a LOT longer to get out of his system. The visible stuff is a START, but don't think for a second either one of them are done here... they may say they are done, at some level they may even WANT to be done.. but they have chemicals running through their systems that call teh shots right now... not their intellect... the addiction is what's playing you here.. you are trying to outsmart an addiction... and they can be very sneaky.
It's so hard when he's acting like the old H not to think of him as the old H.