Hi Laura - Some things about your sitch do sound familiar, although my ex was pretty good at finishing things. He would just go off on these slightly manic episodes - like the time I took my little daughter to ballet class, and came home to find my H had taken a wall out in my absence!
There's nothing wrong with wanting to fix up a house, or even with being hard-working and ambitious enough to tackle a big job like a kitchen. BUT - when the PRESSURE behind them doing it feels weird, it usually means something else is going on.
I don't know about your H, but mine definitely was always looking to make things better in hopes that he would then FEEL better. He could never be satisfied, because he was always looking to fill a hole in himself. And just as he remodeled the house, he was always trying to improve me as well.
Now - not saying I didn't need any improving, I did. But now that we're divorcing, it's so refreshing to find that other men apparently think I'm pretty okay as I am!
