[quote=mermaid]Your h is still in mlc and all of this back and forth is keeping you from detaching. You need to detach. [quote]
Oh, Mermaid, you are so right!! Is it ever interfering with my detaching. I'm getting frustrated and anxious and micro-focussed and sad and afraid and so on all over and over again. It's making me feel sick. I really don't want my M to end, but part of me just wants to "slam the door shut" to stop the sick feeling. The legal sep papers are waiting, and he's playing games to try to get control, and I can't figure out how to be conciliatory towards trying a reconcilation because I have no trust left and don't want to be hurt AGAIN... all at the same time.
