I know that it's complicated with you both living in different cities. What is the distance in between? If he found a room in your town, could he commute to work? It would make more sense for him to come to you, then you transplanting the whole family at this stage. You can tell him that once you restore your marriage, you would consider moving. At this stage he should make the sacrifices if he is serious about reconciling.
Mila, thanks for your thoughts.
The distance is just outside of commuting range, and it's in the wrong direction (i.e. add extra hours for all the cars going INTO the city he wants to be in).
But he mostly works from (his) home anyways, it's not a 9-5 office job that he has!!
That's I guess why he thinks he can do the 4 weeks.
But it wouldn't be any good, we (or I) have no social circle here, the house is small, the kids are only now getting some friends. We would be in each others way in no time.
See, moving to his city is not all that disruptive, it would cause me to give up a great job, but otherwise -- that is where we came from!!!! That is where all my friends are. The kids friends. But he won't agree to us living in his city (why?).
