"if my heart was so full of you, another woman should never have been able to get in." - and I don't know what or how to help him with this one... maybe this is one of those areas I should just agree with him. "You're right, DH, it wasn't full of me and I own up to the part that I played in that."
That was my H all over too.
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If the affair IS endING... he needs to go through several weeks of withdrawal before he's in any way prepared to receive anything constructive
This isn't always the case Allen. You state it as though it is fact but it is your opinion, and it is not correct always.
And usually an OW is a sympton........whatever Puppy states. A symptom you want rid of, but all the same a symptom.
Re what Allen said about welcoming home with open arms....I in no way meant without trying to sort out the underlying problems that caused your H to feel that he needed to go outside the M for validation, (twice). But that can all be done in time.
The important thing is to talk and decde what you both want in life now.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
